Given a choice between dating services and matchmaking services, a matchmaker makes more sense for many singles by comparison. Matchmakers save singles time, and often money, over dating services. |
Selecting
a Matchmaker or Dating Service to Meet Your Goals What's the difference? For starters, a dating service lets the members choose their match; a matchmaker does the choosing for members. Being an independent sort, choosing your own match may sound like a better deal. Let's be realistic, though. All you have to base your selection on is what the person told you on his/her data sheet or video. Chances are pretty good he/she didn't say much about less appealing characteristics. Matchmakers have an advantage. After each match, a good matchmaker gets feedback from both parties about compatibility and suitability. The matchmaker develops a good feel for individual preferences and personalities. Matchmakers frequently do a better job, simply because they are better informed that we can ever hope to be. The second difference, related to the first, is who gets "chosen." In a "free for all" environment such as the dating service, it seems the "hottest" 10% of the people see most of the "action." These are the same people who do well at happy hours, parties, dances, and everywhere else. There is nothing wrong with that, more power to them. But the rest of us neat people may be overlooked in the "feeding frenzy" to grab those 10%. Matchmakers gain an appreciation for the individuality and uniqueness of each person in their group. They can match people who might never realize they would make a lasting couple. The third difference is responsibility. The dating service recruits as many people as possible. It's your job to find someone in the group you would like to meet who is willing to meet. you. Even if the dating service already has a hundred people similar to you, and even if those folks are having no luck meeting anyone who is interested in them, that is o.k. You can still join. Who knows, maybe your luck will be better!?! In any event, after your check clears the bank, you are on your own with dating services. Matchmakers, on the other hand, actually match you with members. That means they must know at the time they accept you, they have some folks who fit you. That also means they can't accept everyone who wants to join. If other singles similar to you are having a hard time matching someone, the matchmaker cannot ethically bring you into the group. Why? Because it probably won't work for you either until new members change the group's composition. The fourth difference involves those valuable commodities, your time and your very tender heart. |
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