Singles Dating Again: Matchmakers have an advantage. After each match, a good matchmaker gets feedback. The matchmaker develops a feel for individual preferences and personalities. Matchmaking frequently does a better job, simply because the matchmaker is better informed. More about singles and dating again:
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What happens with the matchmaker? The matchmaker does the "work" for you. based on your criteria, he/she rules out many people who might look right, but have no chance of a relationship with you. Even more important, a matchmaker, via feedback from members, can normally spot that not-so-nice person with the good personality who can break your heart. So a matchmaker saves you time and possibly, heartbreak. If your time and heart are as important to you as mine are to me, that's a crucial factor in choosing between the two types of services. I realize it sounds as if I am biased in favor of matchmakers. I am! Based on my research, I am convinced matchmakers do a better job for a higher percentage of their members. Does this mean all matchmaking services are a good deal? Not at all. Some are no better than the worst dating services, and some of the dating services are a perfect fit for some people. Like everything else, you have to use good judgment. To help you judge, let me suggest some things to consider: 1. Up Front Pricing You may call them; they may call you, but if they won't tell you prices over the phone, I wouldn't bother going in ... it can't be good news. Without exception, in the process of my research, every company that refused to discuss price over the telephone used aggressive sales tactics when it came time to sign on the dotted line, and they were expensive. 2. Big Bucks Now that you are cornered in their little room, you are supposed to believe it makes sense to pay $2000 for their services. After all, you get what you pay for, right? Wrong! There is absolutely no assurance you will get more because you paid more to join an expensive dating or matchmaking service. I personally had rather meet people who are smarter shoppers ... Somehow I figure it will pay off if we settle down together! 3. Comparison Shop OK, this is straight from the "Smart Consumer 101" class but it needs to be mentioned.
You have nothing to lose by shopping around. Conclusion The right matchmaker can help you find someone who is a good fit for you. A dating service can provide you a with a way to contact a lot of people who are looking for someone to date. |
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