Singles Dating Again: Men and women have different time frames for dating. Women usually want to move much slower down the dating path than men do. More about singles and dating again:
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Once women feel safe, both emotionally and physically, you can move in for the kill, right? Wrong! Women want to move slowly. Coffee, lunch, and a few phone conversations may be all you need to trust this lady with your heart. Believe me, though, it's not all she needs to trust you with hers. Men and women have different time frames for developing serious relationships. She doesn't want to hear that you are her soulmate or true love so soon that she has to wonder what you are really seeking. Women also feel that a man who will fall in love with her so quickly might fall out of love just as quickly. Women don't want to be trapped. The short date with a definite ending lessens her chances of being caught in a boring situation. You can always extend the date if you're still clicking. Of course, you can also choose an activity that allows you to shift gears. If she agrees promptly, go for it. However, if there seems to be any reluctance on her part to continue, let it go. This is long-term dating we're talking about and there is more likely to be a tomorrow if you take it slowly today. Women need some advance notice. Advance notice is hard to define. A long lead time can be threatening merely because some people, men and women, don't commit that far in advance. But calling at 5 o'clock for a date at 7:00 is almost insulting. Most women will say, "No." Also, if she has to leave work early, get a baby-sitter at the last minute, or change clothes after work to feel comfortable, she'll be less likely to accept late invitations. |
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