Singles: When you first met, your new love may have known you had children without realizing what that entailed. More about singles and single parents dating:
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Your new lover is caught in the middle of you and your kids. However, a new love helps tear you apart, too. New Love: When you first met, your new love may have known you had children without realizing what that entailed. Baby-sitters or the other parent gave you some freedom. Eventually, of course, your children became more and more visible. Your new love's reaction may not have been what you hoped and expected. In fact, resentment, sulking, and even withdrawal are not uncommon at this point. Remember, your new love's position is quite vulnerable. He/she probably feels anxious about your relationship as well as his/her ability to relate to your children. How can you help? You can help by including him/her in some of the planning for your children. Listen and empathize with his/her side. Try to see situations through your your new love's eyes without becoming defensive or always agreeing. Remember you do have parental responsibilities and your own views to consider before a decision is made. Be reasonable. Don't use your new love as a babysitter or help-around-the-house. Directory You Are Walking a Tight Wire When You Start Dating Again You Are Torn Between All Parties Including and Pacifying Your New Lover Children Are Your New Love's Competitors |
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