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ways for men and wome to proactively meet their mate/lover.
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I assume you are not normally in a position to meet the opposite sex (who is???) and you don't do much about your situation. Meeting enough singles of the opposite sex to find the person you want involves a multi-faceted, proactive campaign. Your campaign makes you easy to find. Just as you are proactive in your career, with your kids, and in other aspects of your life (or at least I suspect you are), you should also be proactive about finding a mate/lover! How can men and women be proactive? By doing everything they can think of to meet a mate. I'm a big believer in lists. They keep you on track. There is something magic about writing a list, looking at it often, making notes about outcomes, and even revising or adding to that list. I am offering you my list of proactive ways to meet people just to get you started thinking in the right direction. Join, join, join, then join something else! 1. Join non-profit social groups. You will be meeting new people and expanding your circle of potential mates/lovers. 2. Join church singles' groups. It is not hypocritical to join a church group for the purpose of meeting someone special. Most church singles groups exist to give you a way to meet someone who shares your faith and values. Of course, if your head is on a swivel during the 11 o'clock service, that is a different matter. A time and a place... 3. Join a reasonably-priced (under $1000 total) matchmaking or dating service. One word of warning: In my opinion, some matchmaking/dating services are more in the business of getting you to sign a long-term, very expensive contract than they are in connecting you to someone special. If a service will not willingly give you prices over the phone, move on to another service. There is no reason a service can not give you a price or a price range before they see or interview you. Matchmaker or dating service? Click here for a comparison. But the warning about dating services also applies to matchmaking services. Get prices over the phone or get another matchmaking service. 4. Join DinnerMatch. It is available whereever singles reside and is free to join. Singles are matched for age/race preferences plus interest commanalities, then 3-to-4 matched couples are invited to dine together in a nice, local restaurant. The next day, you go online to indicate which of those singles you would like to see again. If you both say "yes," DinnerMatch will give both of you the other's contact information. Check out DinnerMatch here. 5. Join special interest groups. If you enjoy mountain biking, join a mountain biking group. If you have a vegetarian diet, join a vegetarian group. If you enjoy the theater, join a theater group. There will be some singles for you to meet in almost any group you join. 6. Try speed dating, rapid date or Express Meet. Whatever you want to call it, if it is available in your area, this is a GREAT way to have 6 or 7 or more first dates at one time. General information about speed dating here. Get out of your house! Go out, out, out! Hang where the opposite sex hangs. That's obvious but... 7. Go where some people gather. It does not have to be a club or singles bar. It can be the library, the park, the mall, even the movies. Meet a few eyes, smile, and say "hello." Don't limit your smiles to attractive people of the opposite-sex, however. Be friendly with everyone. Remember, you can be talking to a sweet, little old granny when her good-looking grandchild comes up and joins the conversation. 8. Volunteer. But volunteer where you find people interaction. Volunteering to staple the newsletter at home will help your favorite cause or charity. Going to a newsletter gathering where compatible people label, staple, and stamp the letter while interacting with each other works much better for your cause. 9. Walk your dog, cat, bird, ferret in the park or in a busy apartment complex. 10. Take your child to the park or the zoo or the PTA meeting. Look around; meet some eyes; smile; start a conversation. If you don't have a child, borrow one from your sister or brother. 11. Take classes that you think will attract the opposite sex. Continuing education classes are great. Take a cooking class, a computer class, a skydiving class, a drawing class, an archery class. Try to find classes that are at least two sessions long to increase your chances of talking to the person who catches your eye. |
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