Singles Relating: The hardest step for many is dealing with the ensuing grief and loneliness the loss of a spouse, lover, or friendship or another relationship brings. Grief is important but while you are grieving, be proactive about getting your life back in order or dating again. Singles relate:
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Before you can forget a relationship, you must grieve and forgive. This takes time. The hardest step for many is dealing with the ensuing grief and loneliness the loss of a love relationship, a marriage or even the loss of a best friend brings.Yet, according to Bob Carver, psychotherapist in Dallas, Texas, it is very important to allow time for adequate grieving. Carver states, "When any relationship ends, friendship, kinship, or a male/female relationship, it is important to grieve that ending. Allowing adequate time to evaluate what was right and wrong about the relationship is of great significance for the next relationship. Don't go from one bad relationship to another without doing this." Carver continues, "A friendship or any other relationship fails because of three things:
And then comes forgiveness. Almost without exception grief follows the five stages below, although not necessarily in that order: Denial and/or disbelief: A feeling that this is not happening. Anger: Even the partner bailing out has feelings of anger. Many feel cheated or used. Bargaining: One or both friends bargain or try to reconcile. Depression: A sense of helplessness, emptiness, or loss. Acceptance: Acceptance as the result of mourning losses, then working through the grief, forgiving, and forgetting. Divorce happens. Lovers depart. A best friend moves away. Grieve... Take time to lick your wounds and gather your forces... |
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