Single Again and Holidays: Singles are often lonely at holiday time. Ideas for coping with holidays when you are single again takes some prior planning.

Single Again at Holiday Time? Single, lonely, and holidays! They don't have to be inclusive. Make your holidays better the first holiday you are single again, and for every holiday thereafter. Ideas for the newly single again.

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Single Again at Holiday Time. Ideas for the Newly Single Again.
By Rob McLean

It is possible there is no lonelier time for singles than holiday time. It is particularly hard for the person who is single again after a long relationship.

It helps if you have family nearby, but even family can not always take away that gnawing in your stomach.

Enough of that pity pot, though. What can you do to make your holidays better?

Unfortunately, I have been single again more than once so I have a few ideas for getting through the holidays--some from my own personal experience.

Ideas for Holidays when Single Again:

1. "Ask" people to include you in their plans.

In an off-the-cuff manner mention that you don't have anything to do for Fourth of July week-end or Thanksgiving.

Say this to two or three people at work or where you play. Ask if they have any suggestions for singles in the area.

Someone will probably offer to include you in their plans. Even if they don't invite you this time, an invitation may be forthcoming in the future.

2. Plan something different.

Do something you have never done before such as eat a vegetarian meal, go tubing, go backpacking, or spend a few hours at an art museum.

Attend a different religious (different like Christian and Hindu or different like Methodist and Catholic) service. You are not embracing this religion, just enjoying the fact that people are different.

If you normally go to rock concerts, try the symphony. If you normally rent a video, try a book.

3. Plan a party yourself. Invite your friends or invite other singles to come and bring a non-significant other.

You might live in a small apartment if you are recently single again. It does not have to be at your home. Go to a restaurant, a park, the lake, a dance spot, a club, or any combination of these places.

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4. Do something you swore you would never do--if you can. Not something against your morals--just something you have been close-minded or shy about doing.

5. Volunteer. Millions of caregivers, service people, and retailers would like the day off. See if you can help their dream come true!

It is less lonely to volunteer where you will meet people, of course, so think about that volunteer job before you say "yes."

6. Find a singles' group and go wherever they are going.

This probably works best in a medium-to-large town but even the smallest town usually has a singles' group at a church or two. If not, head to the nearest city.

7. Take a trip--near or far--one that puts you in touch with people.

8. Go back to your childhood.

What did you do as a child on this day?

If you watched fireworks, find some to watch.

If your family always went to church, attend a service similar to your childhood.

If your family spent Thanksgiving or Fourth of July camping, at least spend that day at a nearby campground or park.

9. If you have children, try to see them. If you can't see them, click here for ways of staying in touch with your kids.

10. If all else fails, don't stay home feeling depressed. There are people at large public parks, in libraries, at malls, movies, and restaurants. Plan your day so you are around some people.

Above all, treat the day with humor. You will be attached next year, right?

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