Singles: If you have been out of the loop since college or even for many years, it's hard to know how to date again. Here are a few hints! More about singles and being suddenly single:
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Suddenly Single If you are suddenly single or single again and just beginning to date again or if you are merely confused by the dating scene, this article covers dating matters for all singles. Learn who asks for the date, who pays for the date, first dates, how to say "no" to a date, how to end a date. Other dating matters are covered here. also. If you have been out of the loop since college or even for many years, it's hard to know how to date again. Here are a few hints! First Date The safest rule of thumb for a first date (especially if the first date is a blind date) is two cars, public place, don't leave together. First dates can be draining, especially if you have not dated in some time. You may even feel you are back in school In addition, if there is not interest in the other person, a long date can be a boring or even an agonizing period of time. For that reason, we suggest a short date, no more than one hour. Lunch, an ice cream cone, coffee, etc. make the best first dates. Who Asks Either sex! Both men and women are normally flattered to be asked for a date. However, neither sex wants to date everyone who asks. They will usually (but not always) say "no" if they do not wish to date you. Don't let a few singles who decline your offer discourage you from asking again. It will happen. Some men have a thicker skin for rejection than women. They usually keep asking although many women give up after a few rejections. Thank goodness for those of us who do keep trying. How to Decline Saying "no" to a date is harder for some people than saying "yes." Keep it simple. Tell the truth! Don't lead someone on by saying you are busy when you aren't or that you will call back when you won't. The truth can be a s simple as "I'm flattered you asked me for a date because you are such a nice (attractive, fun, sincere, etc.) person. However, I'm gong to decline because I don't feel we have much in common." Who Pays Rule of thumb: The person who asks for the date pays for the date. Dutch treat is the option of the person who is asked. What Do I Talk About Some people have a gift of gab and can talk to anyone, anywhere. For the rest of us, it is wise to have a few things in mind to discuss before the date. It is hard to be creative when you are nervous. Movies, current events, sports, music make good neutral topics. Politics and religion do not. Ask questions to draw the other person out. However, do not grill the other person. Grilling makes most people uncomfortable and makes you look socially inept. |
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